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Around six months ago I had dinner with a thirty-eight-year-old man named Alexander who experiences intense depression, has relationship difficulties, and who is drug and alcohol dependent. As articulated by Alexander, it is his alcohol and drug dependency and his severe depression that had the most to do with his continual relationship issues.

I remember reading that a history of mental health concerns, substance abuse, and excessive and careless drinking routinely take place in the same family. Additionally, I remember reading that in such situations, a person needs to get treatment for both medical problems and that dependency and mental health difficulties many times take place in the same individual.

As declared by Alexander, he is so overwhelmed by his relationship difficulties and by both of his medical problems that he, for all intents and purposes, has little or no impetus to complete much of anything. What is especially sad about this is that earlier in his life, Alexander finished two semesters of grad school in linguistics.

Alexander’s situation makes me wonder if he is an illustration of a person who can look within and see his drug abuse and alcohol drinking problems and do something healthy about these problems or if he is someone who has to hit rock-bottom before he gets drug and alcohol addiction rehabilitation that leads to long-term recovery.

The Need For a Counseling Protocol He Can Believe In and a Healthcare Professional He Can Trust

If it would be beneficial I would imagine that I could suggest a number of websites and blogs that could possibly help him learn more about drug abuse symptoms, the stages of alcoholism, chemical dependency information, and relationship problems. In my honest opinion, nonetheless, Alexander needs to locate a rehabilitation protocol he can believe in and follow over the long haul and find a healthcare practitioner he can trust.

I could be in the wrong but it seems logical to conclude that Alexander more likely than not needs to look in the mirror regarding his drug addiction signs and alcoholic symptoms and accept the fact that he cannot abuse drugs or drink at all if he wants to get sober, stay sober, and start on the route to long-lasting recovery.

It may be asked how counseling would help his chemical dependency. For starters, there are some recently produced physician-prescribed medications that can help Alexander through the alcohol and drug detox process, through his withdrawal symptoms, and help him avoid a drug or an alcohol relapse.

Second, Alexander would learn to admit the fact that there is entirely nothing positive about drug addiction and careless drinking and that messing around with one or both conditions is the route to financial difficulties, shattered relationships, poor work and school performance, legal problems, deteriorating health, and a premature death.

Third, treatment for his depression and for his relationship issues might help him manage these conditions more effectively and possibly create less of a need for him to engage in addictive behavior.

The Importance of Recovery Groups Such as Narcotics Anonymous and Alcoholics Anonymous

There are probably quite a few friends, other individuals, and family members who would desire to help Alexander with his substance abuse and his abusive and excessive drinking. He probably would experience greater understanding from a support group such as Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous, however, instead of listening to people who drink just a few times per year or who have never taken drugs.

When Individuals Accomplish Things They Like and About Which They Are Passionate

There’s a school of thought that stresses that individuals who do things they like and something about which they are ardent reach a great place in life. Stated more precisely, when people do what they enjoy, they hardly ever experience an uneventful life or boredom. If they involve themselves in something that is fulfilling, what is more, they become more whole and experience more satisfaction and delight in life and in their relationships.

When this is thought about for a few moments it becomes obvious that this uplifting mindset is worlds apart from a life that is rooted in drug and alcohol addiction because such a lifestyle removes the pleasure and joy that life offers.

Because Alexander doesn’t have the determination to achieve much of anything in his life, it is obvious that he urgently needs a little hope for a more fulfilling lifestyle. And the sad thing is that hope is all around Alexander if he could only get to the place in life to get the counseling he needs for his mental illness and alcohol addiction and drug dependence and remain in his treatment protocol.

More Positive Relationships, A Wonderful Life, Self Esteem, and Constructive Change Are a Reality

Alexander is simply too young to be beaten in life. He doesn’t realize this right now but if he can learn how to refrain from drugs and alcohol via alcohol and drug therapy and get the counseling he requires for his intense depression, he can reorient his life and start living with self-respect, passion, and direction.

More meaningful relationships, a meaningful life, self esteem, and beneficial change are certainly possibilities for Alexander if only he could become inspired to seek the medical rehab he needs, follow through with his treatment regimen, live his life in a healthy and addiction-free manner, and learn how to acquire a more positive attitude about life.

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If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship  for a long time, you may loose your ‘inner compass’ and can become convinced that you are worthless, and that is all your fault, and  you feel like you have nowhere else to go.

Try to honestly answer this questions to yourself:

• Is your ultimate fear to be left alone, without no one to love you?
• Do you sacrifice your own wishes, just to please your partner?
• If your partner abuses you, do you become submissive?
• Do you do things that you do not like just to make your partner feel good?

If you are in a relationship wherein emotional abuse happens everyday, the effects are dangerous than any form of abuse because it can be frequent. The effects of emotional abuse can be subtle, it makes you feel that you are the problem in the relationship even if you are not. It makes you doubt your self-worth and affects your self-esteem also.

Here are the negative effects of long-term emotional abuse:

• Low self-esteem
• Emotional Stress
• Health Problems
• Depression
• Isolation
• Alcohol or drug use

You may seem introverted, quiet, or may appear confident and extrovert, which is an act to fool the outside world so that you can hide the humiliation you are experiencing. You may have deliberately chosen not to seek help but decided to deal with it. if you continue to have communication with an abusive partner, it can drag you back to the same situation.

You must try to do something if your partner is unwilling to seek help or knowledge.
The recovery process can be long and painful. It may influence your mentality and may decide to hurt yourself. It may result to suicide when dealing with a long-term emotional abuse. You would feel unlovable and unworthy.

Proper counseling will help stop this chain of suffering once and for all.

To your happiness,

Neil Warner
Positive Conflicts
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