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It is indeed a fact that it is inevitable in a relationship to have ups and downs. Fights and arguments in a relationship makes it more exciting. Not all of these situations lead to a successful relationship. No matter how strong a relationship, it can still be destroyed.

To have a better relationship, one must have relationship skills. First is to understand oneself in all aspect. It is crucial to really know who we are and what we are capable of doing. This is a challenging task but one really has to do it for his own self. Knowing oneself, allows one to make sound decisions. This can also be a gradual process since it involves also bravery- to face oneself.

Identifying one’s feelings is another relationship skill. Emotions can confuse you.You know that you’re feeling something. It is important to control your emotions or it will control you. Knowing how you’re feeling on a deeper level is important so you can stay with your feelings. This ability to “own” your thoughts and feelings will help you combat evil thoughts that can destroy a relationship.

In addition, managing anger and conflict makes things easier. Problems get easly solved in a constructive way if it is expressed in a right amount. If you can handle criticism it can also help in problem-solving.

Some relationships can be competitive rather than collaborative. Relationships should never be that way. It will just create conflict and insecurities. Life should be spent in celebrating each others achievements. This will always result to a low self-esteem and self- worth. If this happens, the other person would feel less and can be destructive to his self.

One of the relationship skills that is important to learn is identifying and overcoming barriers to trust. Trust is essential in a relationship. There are those who do not understand the meaning of trust. It is often seen that trust in our daily lives is disappearing fast. Trust gives strength to our relationships and gives us inner happiness. Life becomes brighter and brighter if there is trust in our relationship. It also gives us a positive mentality and it is easier for us to handle situations. This works in long distance relationships. With this virtue, there is a sense of deep bonding.

Communication is as important as trust. Responding and having the ability to understand another’s feelings and words will strengthen the relationship. Communication helps one to solve the problem.

We need to take care of our relationships with care. We should not let our negative emotions rule our mind, or else it will destory us. This means we need to make our efforts of making relationships last. If there is balance in our lives, happiness will just come along.

Neil Warner
Positive Conflicts
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Many relationships today will flow smoothly to some point and then all of a sudden without a warning they go haywire. For most instances of these cases the reason occupies in the court of one partner. Other is almost innocent.

Provided the hammering force it could provide on the recipient, an emotional abuse is the worst kind of abuse. In majority of relationships it is the male who becomes dominant over emotional aspects and finds it easier to commit emotional abuse towards his partner. But there are instances where the female will get in to the dirty work as well.

This kind of an emotional abuse is serious not only the day to day activities of the receiver but also the professional life. Your partner could attempt emotional abuse by humiliating you; putting you down in front of a crowd and making you feel under estimated about yourself. Things like making the partner feel disgraced unattractive and incompetent are also involved in an emotional abuse.

Not only an adult, but children could also be gone through some emotional abuses. Most of these are practiced by the elders without their knowledge. Little things they say to kids when they are small could affect the entire future of a child. They can be frightened to the entire life with a small incident happened in their childhood. This kind of child emotional abuses however can be avoided by commonsense. But there are more intentional emotional abuses seen by the adults to attend an illegal activity or business using children.

Child emotional abuses could be detected from the behaviors of a kid. Weird behaviors such as bites, speech disorders and aggressive way of thinking are some of observable indicators. Parents can also take the blame on their child’s improper behaviors after being affected by emotional abuses. Blaming the child, harassing the child and also putting down the child are some of the common aspects for a child to get emotionally upset.

You can make sure not to practice any sort of an emotional abuse with or without intention if you gain some knowledge about it. With more and more attention being put towards the legal aspects of any kind of abuse, the life is much easier for a victim.  Larger community of people today do suffer from mental disorders due to the very fact of under looking the emotional aspects of one’s.

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If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship  for a long time, you may loose your ‘inner compass’ and can become convinced that you are worthless, and that is all your fault, and  you feel like you have nowhere else to go.

Try to honestly answer this questions to yourself:

• Is your ultimate fear to be left alone, without no one to love you?
• Do you sacrifice your own wishes, just to please your partner?
• If your partner abuses you, do you become submissive?
• Do you do things that you do not like just to make your partner feel good?

If you are in a relationship wherein emotional abuse happens everyday, the effects are dangerous than any form of abuse because it can be frequent. The effects of emotional abuse can be subtle, it makes you feel that you are the problem in the relationship even if you are not. It makes you doubt your self-worth and affects your self-esteem also.

Here are the negative effects of long-term emotional abuse:

• Low self-esteem
• Emotional Stress
• Health Problems
• Depression
• Isolation
• Alcohol or drug use

You may seem introverted, quiet, or may appear confident and extrovert, which is an act to fool the outside world so that you can hide the humiliation you are experiencing. You may have deliberately chosen not to seek help but decided to deal with it. if you continue to have communication with an abusive partner, it can drag you back to the same situation.

You must try to do something if your partner is unwilling to seek help or knowledge.
The recovery process can be long and painful. It may influence your mentality and may decide to hurt yourself. It may result to suicide when dealing with a long-term emotional abuse. You would feel unlovable and unworthy.

Proper counseling will help stop this chain of suffering once and for all.

To your happiness,

Neil Warner
Positive Conflicts
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